What Is Love?

I think that love is in the mug of hot chocolate you serve yourself with when you feel like you have to spend some time alone with your couch, sweatshirt, and sweat pants, while reading a book on a Friday night.

Love is accepting that your closest friends might not always understand the person that you've become; that they will be there to listen for as long as they can and understand the things you are doing, but no one else but you, can absolutely tolerate yourself.

It is that feeling when you reconnect with an old friend from almost a decade ago, because you are able to evaluate the past and the kind of people you both were from the point of view of the present.

Needing someone is love, but when you've given in to this weakness of emotionally depending on others, you are just setting yourself up for disappointment. This is not always the case, of course. Though, for the times that it is applicable, and you've learnt to deal with letting go of this kind of pain, that is love.

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Real affection can sometimes come from distancing yourself from those you love, but not everyone can understand this. It is not logical. If you are going through a problem and you want to deal with it all by yourself, you can. If you choose to implode or explode, may it be the choice that will make you stronger, as long as you are not hurting the people around you, most especially yourself.

Love is truly accepting the person that pain, loneliness, and depression have made you evolve into. It will be quite difficult, but coming to terms with things you never thought you would do, and truly forgiving yourself for them, will indeed make you stronger.

For the time being, listening to one of Mando Diao's songs, entitled "Dance With Somebody", is what I would call love. Yes, I want to blast this song through my speakers on a quiet Sunday afternoon and wake everyone up from their naps to start dancing, but I will not do that because it is not logical. 

Not everyone will understand it, and not everyone can accept it.